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What Color is Your Personality? {The People Code Book Review}

This post, What Color is Your Personality? The People Code Book Review was not a compensated review but a book I checked out from the library and found of interest. All opinions are my own and were not influenced in any way although affiliate links may be included.

What Color is Your Personality? The People Code Book Review

Recently I’ve been trying to put more of an effort into improving relationships with those most important to me in my life. While you love and care about your family and friends deeply, sometimes it’s easier to focus on the negative interactions more so than the positive.

Why do we do this? These are the people in our lives that make us the happiest and provide us the greatest joys and yet we don’t always appreciate them for all that they are whether we deem their personality quirks as weaknesses or things that rub us the wrong way.

Through the grieving process, I’ve come to realize just how much I guilt myself about everything. I guilt myself about things that I’ve done that have no relevance or that others have long forgotten and I guilt myself over things that I cannot change no matter how badly I wish I could turn back time.

Not everyone has this sort of guilt that courses through them and seeks to run their lives. My husband, for one, rarely feels guilty about anything and is able to accept the choices and decisions he’s made and move on.

I’ve always chalked up my guilt to how I was raised. Blaming it on my parents or more specifically my mom seems like an easy out and is partly true just as my mom was guilted by her own mom.

Both my mom and myself can very easily be guilted or persuaded into or out of various things in life by other people. While my mom and I have a close relationship, our personalities are polar opposites.

Even with guilt being a common personality trait, we’re motivated by different things and approach situations and life very differently. Some aspects of our relationship are great and we’ve really been able to thrive and others seem strained no matter how much effort we put into things.

Why is it that no matter we just mesh with certain people but others rub us the wrong way?

The People Code


During the course of my research, one book suggestion popped up that intrigued me and made me immediately request it from the library – The People Code by Dr. Taylor Hartman. Dr. Hartman believes that we can all be categorized by our personality into four color group – red, blue, white, and yellow.

After taking a brief test, your answers are tallied revealing your personality color code. I thought it sounded hokey and improbable at first but was surprised at the accuracy of the information and insight that my new found color revealed about myself.

Once your color was identified you could in more detail about your motives, needs, and wants. At the start of each colored personality chapter, there’s a warning that says the strengths will likely encourage you while the weaknesses or limitations will frustrate you.

However, by not only reading about your own personality but others too, you’ll become better equipped to interact and strengthen your relationship with all personality types. Of particular interest is the section where your personality is compared with another color and you can see how to make the most of complementary similarities and build upon those qualities.

There’s also a section where you can see the potential conflicts that can arise because of your contrasting traits and try to cognitively accept these traits as innate characteristics that can not be changed to suit your will.

I’m not usually one to delve too eagerly into self-help books but I’m really inspired and motivated to make positive changes in my relationships based upon The People Code.

Do you have relationships in your life that could benefit from reading this book? If you’ve read this book, what color is your personality?

More self-help books I recommend

  • Strengths Finder 2.0
  • The Road Back to You
  • The 5 Love Languages
  • Emotional Intelligence 2.0

Super Frugalette

Tuesday 24th of January 2012

I haven't read the people code but I have read the 5 love languages...I found it helpful.

Kelly @ Texas Type A Mom

Tuesday 24th of January 2012

I found that book really helpful as well and this is a great supplement to it!

Henrietta

Tuesday 24th of January 2012

I really need to work on improving my relationships with those I love this year. I tend to be less accepting of the ones closest to me and try to distance myself, not sure if it's because I'm so afraid of change or of being hurt or what but this book does sound very interesting and helpful!

ohkeeka [The Type A Housewife]

Monday 23rd of January 2012

I'm going to have to check out this book. I feel guilty over everything too. I think I just take everything 10x harder than everyone else (and then I keep the feelings in--definitely a recipe for good mental health, right?!), so I assume other people do too, and hence always feeling guilty.

Penelope

Monday 23rd of January 2012

This sounds interesting. I love books that discuss improving personal relationships, so it sounds like one to check out…thanks for the recommendation!

MSRheinlander

Monday 23rd of January 2012

This sounds interesting... you have me wondering what my color is??!!??