Falling in love is easy, staying in love take work. Here are 7 Ways to Stay in Love with Your Spouse that are simple and effective.
It is very easy to fall in love, but staying in love is a bit more tricky. Many people think once you are married, you don't have to try as hard.
That is where things can go wrong and fast. No matter if you are dating, engaged, newlyweds or married for 17 years like me, you have to constantly work at your marriage to keep the spark alive, and have that reminder each day that you love your spouse and why you chose to marry them. Below are ways to stay in love with your spouse, and have a lasting relationship.
7 Simple But Effective Ways To Stay In Love With Your Spouse Over The Years
1. Affection
Don't let the affection in your daily lives fizzle out. Make sure to say goodbye and hello with a warm embrace or a kiss. Hold hands if you are out walking around, just make sure to show affection when you can. It doesn't have to be extreme, but just simple and thoughtful gestures to know and show you love your spouse.
2. Accept Them For Who They Are
When you prepare to marry someone you marry them for who they are, not who you hope they change into over time. Accept the quirks and just love them for all the things that they bring to your relationship. Instead of wishing they did more of something else, love the little things they do, that make them unique and yours. This may be one of the harder but most effective ways to stay in love.
3. Encourage and Love
Being your spouses biggest supporter is a huge one. No matter what offer encouragement and love. If you disagree with something they want to do, try to say it in a loving way you disagree. But if you are proud of them for an accomplishment, tell them. If you see your spouse playing with your child and you love them for that, then tell them how amazing of a parent they are. If they work hard, tell them. Just encourage and show love to your significant other.
4. Don't One-Up Each Other
Don't go out of your way to try to one-up your spouse. Just know that each of you offers special and unique rolls to the relationship and household. So what if one of you is the breadwinner and the other isn't.
5. Patience and Grace
A big thing is having patience and grace in a marriage. It will not always be sunshine and rainbows. You will fight, you will struggle, and you have to have patience and grace for your partner. Remind yourself that it is only a season, and if you work through your problems in a healthy light you can get back on track. This is where the marriage takes a lot of effort, some find it easier to give up. But you took vows for better or worse, just remember the worse part is only a season.
6. Respect
Probably the biggest success in a marriage is respecting each other. Breaking each other down and not showing respect can really hurt or fully damage a marriage in a hurry. Just always show your spouse the respect they deserve, even if you are in an argument. Words hurt, and they can stick in peoples minds for a long time. Don't say things you will later regret. This is also one of the 5 Things Your Husband Needs Each Day.
7. Time For Each Other
Make sure that no matter how short or long you have been married you make quality time happen. Whether it is a lunch date, walk in the park one evening, or a vacation. Find ways to make time for each other, and really stay connected. When we forget about each other, and that connection goes away, you can grow apart. This does get easier as you move out of the potty training stage and they start school.
Do you have any other ways to stay in love with your spouse?